Body confidence is a big thing lately. No matter what your shape or size, everyone is being encouraged to love themselves and embrace everything they are. But it’s not always as easy as that is it?
Like most women, I have struggled with my weight and figure for as long as I can remember. My earliest memory being stood in my own clothes in school. I was in a line, about to go on a trip. As I looked down the line at my classmates, all of us between 13-14 years old, I began comparing myself to them. Namely one girl who was taller and a dancer. With a toned svelte figure, my arms automatically went to my slightly rounded stomach. Although not fat, I was aware that my tummy wasn’t flat like hers and thus heralding the beginning of my issues with my body.
Losing My Body Confidence.
This carried on through my teenage years and into my 20’s. Never big despite what I thought until I had Olivia. It was then all thoughts of dieting and caring about my size went out of the window. To this day, I have never gotten back to my pre-baby weight and the size I wanted to be.
Since then I have been a yo-yo dieter and an all or nothing exerciser. I have lost weight and put it back on again only to lose it and restart the cycle all over again. But this year, I have discovered that my issues actually stem from others. Sure I’m overweight and it is exaggerating my health issues, but this constant desire to have to lose weight to prove my worth? That isn’t me. That is something that is so deeply ingrained into my mind I’m not sure it can ever be eradicated.
Taking Back You and Reclaiming Your Body Confidence.
Losing weight for other people, because other people deem it necessary, cannot and will not work. Loving yourself and being happy in your own skin, despite others opinions cannot come from trying to make others happy. Having them project their ideals onto you won’t make you happier. I’ve tried. I have even considered plastic surgery and surgical weight loss methods. There are many places to get plastic surgery. There is a plastic surgery info directory for those thinking about it. But ultimately it wasn’t for me.
But learning to love yourself and finding something good in you and about you. That is healthy. To cast off others projections onto you and embrace your qualities will only make you stronger. Changing your attitude and taking back control to do what makes you happy is the first and best step to make when it comes to body confidence. Because after you lose everyone else’s input into your body shape, size and weight. You can truly start learning to love the skin you are in and making it the best body for you. And this is exactly what I plan on doing!