Having a period isn’t exactly my favourite time of the month. To be honest I am yet to meet anyone who can say that it is! However, having a period is an important part of being a woman and something we should not be ashamed of.
I had my first period around 12. Back in those days, early ’90’s it wasn’t really as openly talked about as it is now and there was still the idea that it shouldn’t be discussed openly or freely and it was something dealt with in private. Time’s have really changed since then and being a parent to a tween-aged daughter, I can really see how far we have come in being more open and honest about periods and how they can affect our bodies.
How To Help Your Daughter When Her Periods Start.
There is much more advice and information around now, not to mention different products available for girls and women. With feminine hygiene products being developed for ladies and young girls experiencing a wide range of symptoms and different flows during their period, you are much more likely to be able to find something to suit your daughter and yourself. I know as I have gotten older, my periods and my hormonal changes are so much more different now than in my early 20’s.
The best thing I have found for helping my daughter to prepare for the changes she will experience as she moves through her teenage years is to be open with her. To discuss your experiences and what you have learnt. Even at this age, they still take their cues from us. If we are squeamish and brush it under the carpet, then they too will have this reaction towards their periods.
Help them by discussing how you deal with your periods. What you do in different situations and what to expect. If they know you have experienced it and you understand, then they will be more relaxed when it happens to them.
Answer Any Questions.
Answer them honestly. It’s not always going to easy and as carefree as the adverts portray it. Sometimes you need chocolate, sometimes you need to shout and scream or cry. And that’s OK too. If they know could happen to them then they are more likely to be able to deal with it easier as they know what to expect.
Help Them To Choose Products Suitable For Them.
Everyone reacts differently to different things and periods are no exception. Help them decide what products work best for them and don’t try to force them into using the same products you do because that is what works best for you. There is no rush and some trial and error may be involved. Maybe your daughter doesn’t want to use tampons, the same as you. Maybe they would be more comfortable using products from Knixteen as they have bikini style briefs that are perfect for being discreet at school or for times when they need to change in front of others for sports or other activities.
Don’t forget we had our first period, we all had to go through the same hormonal changes our tween/teen will have to. By remembering that this is all new territory for them we can help them through the changes without any extra stress. If they have an accident, so what. Just help them out and let them know it’s fine and we have all been there before and give advice on how they can change it.