Tonight I am sat here waiting for Olivia to go to sleep.
She has asked me to tell the Easter bunny where she wants her eggs left for an Easter Egg hunt and it shocked me a little. Mainly as she is cheeky enough to demand said Easter Bunny do as she says and because I genuinely didn’t think she believed anymore. I haven’t told her otherwise yet I just presumed that she automatically knew it was me, but she didn’t. And I thought well why would she?
She still believes in Santa so why not the Easter Bunny. She still believes in the Tooth fairy too. But is she too old now, after all she is 8 and if I carry on letting her believe am I just babying her. Holding her back from growing up or am I just keeping her innocence in tact for a little while longer?
I know I don’t have long left and I should enjoy it while she still believes, but how and when is the right time to tell her that basically I have been lying to her for her whole little life! And it is lying isn’t it! Pretending that people and animals exist that obviously can’t exist well not in this world anyway and if someone like Santa did and could travel the whole world that fast in one night the would no such thing as a long haul flight, travel in the blink of an eye! Now that would be amazing!
Should I tell her or not is one of the things that I regularly think about now she is getting older, especially as last year her cousin asked us if we were in fact lying about Santa as a girl in her class told her he wasn’t real. We managed to convince her but now she is 9 should we stop? Do we owe it to our girls to tell them the truth ourselves or wait until a school friend lets the cat out of the bag? Is it best to spare them possible humiliation by being told in the playground or do we tell them and run the risk of them spoiling it for their friends instead?
It is such a tricky situation, yes it would be easier for them to know the truth but on the other hand children these days grow up so fast it is nice to keep some things going as long as you can. Even more worrying is that her dad will tell her. Or he will disapprove of my decision as things like this is one area we don’t agree.
Every year the story for our family, of which he is well aware, goes that Santa buys all presents and as he know we visit everyone in our family on Christmas day he leaves presents for everyone in all our houses! We were all single mums together for a good few years so this worked brilliantly for us until her dad told her that in fact the presents in his house were off him! Bloody men!
But back to the point, does it do children any harm to believe for longer or is it best to cut it off before they get too old and exactly when is too old? I don’t even remember how old I was or even how I found out do you? I just don’t know what to do for the best right now but I will let Easter pass and then I will have until Christmas comes round again to make my mind up.
Or is the problem with me? With me accepting that my baby is growing way too fast and if I tell her that indeed they aren’t real then I will have to face the truth won’t I!
Decisions, Decisions confusion tonight in the frazzled household.