Do You Wake Up Ready? Plus Win A Sleep Hamper including a Lumie Light.

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For me, 2017 seems to be the year of no sleep. From starting it off with a nasty bug courtesy of Miss Olivia. To developing the most excruciating back pain whenย I’m lying down, to now, as I am writing this post, not sleeping due to catching yet another bug off my kind daughter who just loves to share meaning I can’t breathe through my nose and it’s all just ewww! It’s safe to say there is no way I wake up ready in the mornings.

It’s not looking great for me on the sleep front so far. Do you wake up ready? Are you a good sleeper or do you know how many times you have woken up or tossed and turned? Some mornings I literally wake up exhausted, OK, it’s pretty much most mornings lately, but still. For a while now I’ve not been the best sleeper and I don’t think my nighttime routine helps matters much.

From sleeping with the TV on, to taking my laptop bed. My bedroom is no longer a sanctuary of calm that promotes a healthy sleeping environment. It’s a electronics coven ruled by my inability to switch off. Literally and metaphorically. Just like the online world doesn’t stop for sleep, neither does my brain. It’s a lose-lose situation and one I am making worse for myself. That’s before you take into account the middle of the night back pain that wakes me up EVERY.SINGLE.NIGHT.

Do You Wake Up Ready?

I absolutely do not wake up ready. Unless by ready you mean ready to go back to sleep. I’ve never been a morning person. But I’m not alone. Studies estimate that 1 in 3 people experience a poor nights sleep leaving them also unable to wake up ready to tackle the day on a good start.

Sleep is an important part of our life. A lack of sleep can affect our health, immunity and ourย emotional and psychological well-being. It also drastically increases the chances of me driving my boss up the wall. But how can you break the cycle and increase your quality of sleep? Hands up who can often be found sleeping like the dog in the picture, phone in hand? I know I do and I am trying to break that habit.

Recently I received a lovely Sleep Hamper from Kalms to help me improve my pre-sleep routine to help me feel more revitalised of a morning and #wakeupready

#wakeupready with these sleep tips in association with Kalms.

Set a bedtime and a wake-up time

And stick to it! Try to make sure as much as you can to set your body clock so it knows when it’s time to sleep, this, in turn, could help waking up much easier.

Electronic free zone

No, phones, no laptops, no TV. Pretty hard one for me as I spend a lot of time in my bedroom. Possibly contributing to my lack of being able to sleep as my brain now probably doesn’t associate my bed with sleep. But with my back pain, it’s the only place I can sit comfortably. Make your bedroom a sanctuary that promotes sleep and calm and save the rest for elsewhere in the home.

Limit your caffeine intakeย 

If you drink a lot of coffee or energy type drinks (guilty), save them for earlier on in the day and choose a more relaxing drink for closer to bed time. Like a nice cup of hot chocolate.

Take a relaxing bath

Lots of bubbles, lots of lavender and relax!

Set a routine

Try to set a nice relaxing bedtime routine. Allow yourself time to unwind and get rid of the stresses of the day to fully prepare yourself for sleep. Maybe it could involve any of the tips above, or you could find a different option that works for you.

Write things down

If like me you have a million and one things running through your head as you doze off, write them down. They may not make any sense come morning but it will get them out of your head to allow you to free them from running through your mind. I write some of my best things (well in my opinion) when I’m falling asleep so I always have a pen and notebook by my bed.

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If you still struggle to fall asleep after trying these tips you can find more helpful information on ways to help get a good nightย sleep over on the Kalms advice page. Kalms night and Kalms one a night tablets are traditional herbal medicinal products used for the temporary relief of sleep disturbances, exclusively based on long-standing use as a traditional herbal remedy – Contains Valerian Root. Always read the leaflet. Remember to always read the label. If you are concerned about poor sleep or insomnia please consult your doctor.

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How Would You Like to Win a Sleep Hamper?

As well as receiving a hamper for myself I also have one to give away to my readers too! You could win your very own sleep hamper containing a Lumie light to help you wake up more naturally by a light imitating the sunrise as oppose to an alarm. A Moleskine notebook to write down all your nighttime thoughts, Baylis and Harding Lavender bath soak and Whittards of Chelsea Dreamtime Hot Chocolate.

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Ts & Cs

The prize is one hamper as detailed above to be sent to the winner directly from the prize sponsor. Available to UK residents over 18. The winner will be chosen within 5 days of the competition ending and has 28 days to acknowledge their win. Please allow 28 days for delivery. Should any issues arise I will do my utmost to help resolve this. The competition will run from the 11/2/17 to 5/3/17 Please make sure to enter all options carefully and fully, any incorrect entries will be void, I do check.ย 

*Disclaimer: I was provided with the #wakeupready sleep hamper to assist with writing this post and hosting the giveaway*



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  1. i get warm and snuggly nothing worse if youre an ice cube in bed,i watch tv for a while then usually doze off not gory horror or fruity tv though

  2. A little bag of lavender made by my grandma always does the trick for me, whether it’s because it’s from my grandma or the effects fo the natural lavender, I find it is effective.

  3. the no screen thing – I actually have no screens in my bed room now i even leave the phone outside of my room (there is a shelf outside next to my bedroom door) I invested in an old school battery operated alarm clock and it has made a massive difference – I am not the best sleeper but with the phone on the room id be checking messages, emails, fb etc everytime i woke up. Now I just go back to sleep so I am getting more sleep and back to sleep quicker too

  4. I defintely need to try the routine, I always feel like I have a million and one things to do and stay up far too late doing things that arent that important, I need to plan my day (and nights) much better and not stress out if for whatever reason plans have to change as they do

  5. I don’t really have any tips that you haven’t mentioned. But I will say that the ‘Electronic free zone’ is a very useful tip. It really does make a difference if you avoid bright screens.

  6. I keep my worry diary next to my bed and write anything down in there to keep things off my mind. I also have a sleep mask which helps me xx

  7. I suffered from insomnia before I fell pregnant with my little girl, I was always just fobbed off with Zoplicone! I find that writing a to do list for the next day and clearing my mind really helps me. Also the no screen time xx

  8. I use a lavender bed linen spray and use low lighting (incl my phone) and hour before bed and no caffeine after 7pm.

  9. I find that putting all my worries onto paper before I go to bed helps me sleep and I can work on the solutions in the morning.

  10. I use badge sleep time balm to help relax me after a busy day, even my partner loves it! This is the perfect prize

  11. great tips, i’ve none of my own but will be trying to find time to have a bath with Lots of bubbles, lots of lavender and relax

  12. Will try having a caffeine free drink in the evening. I find listening to the radio on a timer helps me fall asleep. This is the only tech I have in my bedroom, mobile phones etc downstairs.

  13. I try to clear my head completely of any busy thoughts! Have a cup of horlicks and a relaxing bath before bed x

  14. i wish i had good tips for sleeping but i dont. i struggle with sleep and have done for years. to many babies one after the other so was about 10 years of waking up through the night with babies and its left my normal sleep pattern this way and i hate it

  15. I will take the advice of a warm bath, definitely good for relaxing and I suggest reading in bed – it definitely gets you ready for a snooze.

  16. I try to clear my head completely of any busy thoughts! focus on meditation pre sleep – failing that I have some meditation tracks on in the background!

  17. i get to sleep quickly by imagining myself by a frozen pond in a snowy clearing in a forest, it helps clear my mind of all the other mundane stuff i think about

  18. I always spray my Lavendar Night Mist and try and read before bed. I usually get to sleep okay but I tend to wake up through the night a lot

  19. Fresh bed linen and reading a book before I go to sleep helps me switch off, it’s getting up that’s the problem on dark mornings been thinking of getting a lumie clock.

  20. i give up putting my kids back to their beds after the 50th time i just crash in their room instad and 9 times out of 10 they are the nights i sleep the best….maybe its the fact im not listening to my partner snooring the whole night away or maybe it because the kids single beds are more comfortable than my bed

  21. For me I couldn’t sleep without ear plugs. They really are brilliant for cutting out annoying ambient noise / traffic / neighbors / partner snoring etc.

  22. I really don’t know, I’ve tried everything to be honest and still don’t sleep well! I will try every tip on this blog that i haven’t already tried!

  23. I don’t have caffeine after 4pm, I don’t even own a smartphone so don’t use tech before bed, but I still have trouble getting to sleep. I use earplugs to try to block out my husband’s snoring, but I often resort to giving him a shove to try to get him to change position. Conversely, in the morning I have real difficulty waking up, and often don’t hear the alarm.

  24. Do let us all know how you get on with the Lumie after a while trying it, won’t you. I’d be very interested to know.

  25. I’m really awful when it comes to checking social media before going to sleep so I think I will try and turn off any electronics before I go to bed. I also haven’t tried Kalms so as a last resort I would like to try them. Thank you for the tips!

  26. I think to have clean bedding, plenty of air circulating by opening a window and complete darkness, that’s the only way I get to sleep easier, I don’t really get time to have a bath before bed but wish I did

  27. I always go to bed 20 minutes before I want to sleep and do not use my phone etc. just lie there and try to be mindful ๐Ÿ™‚

  28. Reading seems to encourage my sleepiness! but I’m useless at the no tech routine.. I try to use a ‘sleep playlist’ of mellow songs on an iPod for when my mind is restless too.

  29. I’m really having trouble sleeping at the moment, so will be trying some of these kalms to help me sleep naturally, I’ve always been put off by the idea of sleeping tablets but these sound really natural.

  30. Do away with tech before bed time, have a bath and a chance to unwind with a book, but not a gripping thriller!”

  31. I have always suffered with sleep problems – mainly not getting enough but I have tried almost everything ie, Relaxing bath, Hot chocolate, No Tv, No phone or laptop in bed but nope I just can’t stay asleep for longer than 3 ish hours and it actually takes me 3 or 4 hours to drop off! I would give anything for a good nights sleep!

  32. I dont sleep very well but for others there is not looking at screen for 2hours before bed and I’ve heard eating a banana just before bed helps you drop off

  33. Meditation works wonders for me when I can’t get to sleep. If I’m having a really bad night I’ll also pop a few drops of lavender oil on my pillow too ๐Ÿ™‚

  34. The best way for me to prepare for bed is to have a lovely hot bubble bath with a good book, nothing relaxes more removes any stresses from the day

  35. I think spending time winding down is the best thing. I cant just go to bed without first having a sit down and time to relax! Also the tip about setting a bed time and wake up time is a good idea but I work shifts so its really difficult for me. I would give this a try though if it was practical for me.

  36. I have had sleep problems since I was 11 years old so I’m used to getting very little sleep but eventually it catches up with me. On the nights when I really really need some sleep I take a hot bubble bath before bed, spray lavender sleep spray on my pillow, and dab a little lavender sleep balm on wrists. I close my blackout blinds and take Kalms One a Night.

  37. I’ve had a hard time sleeping since my daughter was born eight years ago. I’d like to give the Valerian Root a try.

  38. A nice soak in the bath can help, although having a one year old who has started waking in the night means we are not sleeping through at the moment.

  39. I limit my caffeine intake, I know that if I have coffee after 2PM I will not be able to go to sleep!
    Also drink only caffeine free tea, love Vanilla Redbush tea.

  40. Nothing seems to help me sleep really. Sometimes putting a pillow over my head helps, I think its a warmth/security thing.

  41. If I am not feeling tired before bedtime I usually take the dog for a walk around the block in the cold weather. You’d think it would wake me up more but it does just the opposite. Maybe I’m a little odd?

  42. Im going to try to go to bed at the same time every night, Im a terrible sleeper as my brain wont shut down

  43. I’m going to try really REALLY hard to leave my phone downstairs. My excuse at the moment is that I need it as I set my morning alarm on it but I’m going to look at a different way of waking up, as its becoming a really bad habit to just quickly check it before sleeping. I hope this will eventually lead to a better nights sleep.

  44. don’t have your bedroom too hot, is better for the room to be cool and under the duvet you soon warm up.

  45. A warm milky drink an hour before bedtime and read a book which will take your mind off the day’s events and the “to do” list!

  46. I think i will try to get into a routine. I always go to bed at different times and wake up at different times.

  47. i have real trouble sleeping but wear an eye mask, ear plugs and have very thick curtains that block out all the light and find this helps!

  48. I keep my room cool and also try and keep it tidy. I have found if my bedroom is messy I don’t sleep very well.

  49. I am terrible at falling asleep as I can never seem to shut off, there is always something to think about. I think I may try your idea of always having a pen and notebook by my bed, see if it helps

  50. I find a nice soak in a bubble bath followed by a hot milky drink relaxes the body and the mind helping me to fall asleep quite quickly.

  51. At the moent I take anti-histamines which are quite good at helping me to get off to sleep. I have known that a smell of lavender is also a good way to help

  52. Lavender bath/shower stuff, good idea, we don’t have any at the moment. Not sure it makes me feel more sleepy, but I do love it.

  53. I swear by Elemis Temple Balm – I just rub a small amount on my temples before going to bed and I sleep so well. If I wake during the night I just rub a little but more in and am soon sleeping like a baby.

  54. I find that running around and tiring myself out works for me, and then I read a bit, and don’t have a problem getting to sleep.

  55. Have a nice hot bath, make sure your bedding is nice and fresh, nice fresh pjs and to make sure the room is dark, also going to bed and waking up at the same time and having a routine helps. I am out like a light!

  56. Relaxation CD or tape helps to relax you . I suffer anxiety disorder so use a deep relaxation one plus some lavender oil on pillow and pulse points

  57. Much as I’m tempted to do the opposite, I avoid alcohol if I can’t risk a sleepless night. Any alcoholic amount, and especially red wine, is guaranteed to wake me up after about 2 hours sleep.

  58. I do tend to have a long soak in the bath before bed. The best thing for me is to not use any of my tech in the bed. Either that or put a movie on, I always fall asleep when watching a movie lol

  59. Have a bath and clean sheets and ban the phone from the bedroom it works! Unfortunately, I am on medication so still have good and bad nights x

  60. I have don’t have good sleep habits (illness) but clean fresh sheets and a good book always make me feel good and sometimes sleep really well.

  61. I always have a soothing camomile tea before bed and also use a lavender essential oil which i dab on and it helps me to relax .I like the sound of the herbal Kalms.

  62. My top sleep tips are: 1. Wind down before bed by having bath. 2. Don’t drink caffeine before bed. 3. Sprinkle some lavender essential oil on your pillow.

  63. I do a 10 minute mindfulness exercise with a free app called ‘Headspace’, it really settles and relaxes me before turning off my light. I’m really finding mindfulness to be a great help in my life.

  64. Love the idea of a hot chocolate, can just imagine being in bed, all snuggly and warm, sipping a hot chocolate only downside is I would have to get out to brush my teeth which would probably wake me up

  65. A calming lavender diffuser in the bedroom helps. Also a nice warm bath and a mug of hot chocolate. Feeling tired thinking about it.

  66. I have so much trouble sleeping, I have a bath and use a spray on my pillowcase but it dosent really make much difference. I really need to stop using my tablet at night!

  67. Try to avoid TV or computer/Tablet phone for 20 mins before bed, lights out and easy listening music not too loud to drift off too

  68. Normally a nice warm bubble bath works but being 29 weeks pregnant, fat, in pain and fed, i am finding it very difficult to sleep at the moment!!!

  69. I don’t think you can beat a hot milky drink before bedtime.Horlicks is my favourite but I also like drinking chocolate and cocoa.

  70. I read before bed, have no phones in the bedroom then if I’m struggling imagine myself on a beach in the Caribbean. I keep lying awake for hours though so it’s not working!

  71. Buy a cute little chug and cuddle up to them they’re so calming, soothing and always there ( I may be biased with chugs ๐Ÿ™‚ ) also don’t drink to much caffeine

  72. My top tip was mentioned in your post, I love a big bubbly bath to relax me! I’ll use lavender scented bubbles and take a decaf cuppa in with me, by the time I’m out, dry & dressed I’m nodding!

  73. I don’t have any top tips other than don’t play with your phone whilst in bed as they stimulate your mind & likely to keep you awake longer,any other tips to help me sleep would be very appreciated

  74. I always make sure my bedroom is at the right temperature not too hot and not too cold, I have a winter duvet and a summer one ๐Ÿ™‚
    I don’t watch tv in my bed anymore and have found this to be a huge help on getting a good nights sleep also I tend to read a book instead of browsing through my phone ๐Ÿ˜‰

  75. I buy lavender bubble bath and when I’m struggling to get to sleep I will have a nice warm bath and have a cup of hot milk before I go to bed.

  76. I try to ‘clear’ my mind as much as possible. Get clothes and work/school bags ready the night before. Try to avoid using iPad etc an hour before bed (easier said than done).

  77. Iv’e been using lavendar spray on my pillows hich is suposed to help sleep, but being an insomniac I still suffer from hardly any sleep ๐Ÿ™

  78. I wish I had advice! I sleep terribly. I will try some of these pointers though. Especially taking to to relax before bed and sticking to a routine

  79. I read a bit before I try to go to sleep, if my mind won’t switch off I think of each part of my body ie big toe, 2nd toe, third toe etc works every time

  80. I cant sleep without my TV on and now my kids are the same, i need all the help i can get. If anyone has any suggestions ill be greatfull. People have tryed to help in the past but nothing seems to work.x

  81. I’ll definitely be taking a book to bed, as soon as my 15 week old daughter nods off I’m wide awake & struggle to nod off! Hopefully reading a few pages will gently help me ๐Ÿ˜‰

  82. A hot bath , a good book , fresh bed linen and kicking the other half into the spare room always guarantees me a decent nights sleep ha ha. Fab giveaway. Would love to be your lucky winner. Fingers crossed x

  83. I really believe that getting the temperature right in your sleeping area is key to enjoying a good night’s sleep…but ofcourse that differs from person to person so you have to find out your optimum level.

  84. I really enjoy spooky stuff on YouTube and the only time I can enjoy watching it is when the kids are in bed so it doenst scare them. As a result it keeps me awake when I go to bed shortly after.I need to stop this!!!

  85. I try and stick to a routine so that I go to bed at the same time and get up at the same time everyday. Usually this works but sometimes I might get a spell when I don’t sleep so well so might have to try some of your other suggestions

  86. I’ll be attempting an electronic free zone! I have a bad habit of taking my phone to bed with me and scrolling through Facebook, Twitter etc before bed.

  87. I have a habit of writing a do list for the following day before I go to bed. It seems to help to clear my head of any worries.

  88. clean sheets, clean pj’s, write a to do list for the next day about an hour before, and if possible no tech next to the bed xx light a nice smelly candle and read for a bit x

  89. I will definitely be trying out your tip of writing down all the things that come into your head. Really interesting blog with some good ideas thanks xx

  90. i really struggling getting to sleep at the moment and waking up is twice as hard, just to have that motivation in the morning. I may have to start trying to stop using any form of technology before bed.

  91. Have a relaxing bath before bed and do not use your phone or tablet in bed as that can make you more awake – the thing I think is most important is to try not to worry about it as that can make you less likely to fall asleep

  92. I’m afraid I don’t have any top tips because I’m such a terrible sleeper. Defininely not a morning person and I really struggle to get up, especially in winter so this would be ace.

  93. I read myself to sleep. I know electronics are not a good idea at bedtime but I find reading on my Kindle really helps to settle me and make me sleepy x

  94. My tip is to spray lavender spray on your pillow… never fails for me! Thank you!
    I need a good tip for actually being able to get up in the morning without feeling like I have had no sleep though… I am so not a morning person! This hamper looks brilliant! ๐Ÿ™‚

  95. Well I’m the world’s worst, the tv is on until I go to bed, the computer is on with me working on it till bedtime and as for coffee I have to have at least one anytime up to an hour before bed. I have to get myself tired, I mean brain tired.
    When I do go to bed, because of my spinal problems, I have to sleep lying on my belly, in a dark room & in a lovely warm bed. When I turn over while asleep then I wake up, I have to get out of bed and have a walk around before settling down in my sleeping position again. I will have to try the lavender oil on the pillow.

  96. Have a half an hour before bed free from phones and tv, and just relax with a book or listen to some music. It helps me get to sleep!

  97. I dont use any technology in the bedroom no tv either and the same goes with my youngest, We also use black out blinds and dont eat late at night.

  98. I have had insomnia since I was a child and struggle on and off continuously! If I had any tips that work I would gladly share them! What I find helps is trying to quieten my mind either by reading or listening to meditations on my ipod. Kalms are also very goo x

  99. My main problem is too many things crowding my mind when I should be getting to sleep so I’ve started imagining a board rubber wiping a blackboard to clear everything. Odd, but it works for me.

  100. I find working from my feet upwards i try and relax every muscle bit by bit, i also do deep breathing and ensure i am comfortable

  101. I find that meditating for 10 minutes at the end of the day, really relaxes me and helps to clear my head, before I settle down to sleep.

  102. I spend some time in bed before wanting to go to sleep – definitely relaxes me. I watch some TV and I often fall asleep watching something.

  103. I am a good sleeper but my husband and daughter are both terrible. I am going to see if I can get them both to do some or all of the things above to see if that helps. I have given my daughter an eye mask and ear plugs as she seems very sensitive to noise around her. That seems to help a bit too.

  104. I’m a terrible sleeper. I try not to look at my phone 30mins or so before I go to bed and read a book as it helps settle my mind

  105. I have terrible sleep problems and I would use all the tips to try and get a good nights sleep. I cant remember the last time I woke up refreshed!

  106. I always set the sleep timer on my tv and leave it on at a very low volume. I find the slight background noise distracts my over active mind when i’m trying to drift off.

  107. I really enjoy ASMR videos which use binaural triggers to relax you, often simulating things such as haircuts, massages and facials ๐Ÿ™‚

  108. I find making sure I do enough in the day to wear myself off at night then I sleep better, but do not eat or exercise at least 2-4 hours before bed and it needs to be fairly dark for me to sleep properly.

  109. Get a husband who doesn’t snore and if thats not an option wear earplugs. I’ll be making it an electronic free zone.

  110. Try to get into a regular pattern of going to bed at the same time and getting up at the same time whether I’m tired or not.

  111. For me if I go to bed too early then I don’t sleep well. So even if the clock says it is bedtime if I don’t feel tired then I stay up a bit longer and sleep better.

  112. Oh I’m terrible for doing all the wrong things! I drink waaaayyy too much coffee, and I’m never off my phone at night and have the TV on in the background! I hate the feeling though when I wake up every morning feeling even more exhausted! Totally need to change my bedtime routine! Xoxo

  113. I have a “chillout” calming playlist on Spotify, which tends to help me nod off if I’m having trouble sleeping. Its very relaxing! ๐Ÿ™‚

  114. I will definitely be trying the Kalms one a night tablets, A tip from me is lavender bed spray I always spray a squirt on my pillow every night so soothing!

  115. i always try not to have my phone to hand as that really distracts me from sleep also get some proper lavender oil add a few drops to a hanky or tissue and place it on your pillow it really works xx

  116. I am an extreme insomniac and am lucky to get 1-2 hours a night. I have tried everything but nothing works for me. My tips are blackout curtains, no screen time after four pm, control caffeine intake and try to accept your insomnia and not panic about how you might feel the next day. I like the warm bubbly lavender idea the best.

  117. I sleep best with the window open! I love the room full of fresh air. Sadly it was closed last night and I have woken with a chronic headache today! arghhhh!

  118. I’m a terrible sleeper. I do find Kalms help sometimes. I wake far too early or far too late and would love to try a Lumie to see if it would help.

  119. My sleep tips are to try to go to sleep and get up at the same time everyday, get as much natural sunlight as possible, move vigorously during the day – don’t sit for more than an hour, limit caffeine, nicotine, alcohol, and big meals at night, take time for relaxing activities before sleep and create a calm and restful sleep environment,

  120. I am a terrible sleeper…it takes me soooo long to fall asleep. My only advice is to keep really active during the day and get a good bedroom/pillow spray

  121. I am VERY guilty of using my electronics at bedtime … and like you I spend a lot of time in my bedroom due to my conditions …. I need to start switching off a little earlier and calming myself down … I also love a coffee …I do find if I drink one anytime after 3pm .. I find it even harder to sleep … so finding something more soothing would be much more preferable at bedtime … kalms I cant take unfortunately as they react with my prescription meds .. but I know how good they are as hubby has used them. So all in all I have realised a lot of what you suggest applies to me … so onward with a new routine at bedtime for me … time to switch off my laptop being as its 11.20 pm lol xxx

  122. I really need to stop watching YouTube videos on my phone in bed as I know it is ruining my sleep…
    I do like a hot chocolate before bed ๐Ÿ™‚ x

  123. Went on a CBT and mindfulness course and learnt lots tech is a no no as is caffeine
    Biggest for me is learning to let go of the day !