Word of the Week: Irresponsible
Irresponsible
I am 32 years of age, 33 this year, I should be grown up by now shouldn’t I?
I should have my life planned and be living it as a responsible grown adult.
Yet,
This week I found myself doing something completely irrational and yes, downright irresponsible.
I handed my notice in at work!
ARRRGGGHHHHHH
What the heck! I hear you saying? Do you have another job? How will you support Olivia? What on earth were you thinking?
All very important and valid questions so I will explain now.
I love my job, it was my first job when I left school at 16, I have gone back to it many times and this time I swore it would be my last job as I am a bit of a job whore, swapping and changing jobs all the time. I felt settled, happy, I made it to the management team, I started the company pension so sure I was of this being my final place of employment..
But life doesn’t always work out the way we wanted it to, doesn’t care what or how we planned things and has a habit of running roughshot over everything and anything in its way.
This job was keeping me out late at night and in early of a morning meaning that Olivia was spending her week staying out to accommodate my awful working hours
For example to help you understand:
- Monday 4-10pm (Olivia at dads)
- Tuesday 7-1am (Olivia at home)
- Wednesday 4-10pm (Olivia at dads)
- Thursday 7-12am (Olivia home)
And so on. You get the idea. This weekend looks like this
- Friday 12-8pm
- Saturday 4-8pm
- Sunday 7am-5pm
The point being I am hardly at home when she needs to be and I am missing out on so much with her I just personally feel that she deserves my time more than anyone and if I don’t put her first who will. Our children deserve us to be the best parents we can be and sometimes that means knowing when to draw the line, to put them first.
To do things we don’t want to do in order to achieve this.
For Olivia and I this means a new job, maybe a new career, one that’s fits better with our life, one that has more child friendly hours to find a better balance.
But for now the job hunt is on and I continue to feel completely irresponsible.
Comments
I can see where you are coming from. I used to work awful hours too before my son came along. All the best with whatever you decide to do x #wotw
Sometimes it is for the best to be at home hopefully something suitable will turn up soon thank you
Definitely agree that you have to do what's best for your family. I felt that giving up (paid) employment was the best thing for us, so I wouldn't miss out on anything when they are this young. Hope you find a good solution soon.
I feel it's the right thing to do for us right now thank you x
Thank you. It is really hard right now 18 months of these hours has finally taken its toll on me x
Very good luck with everything. I don't blame you for trying to find a more suitable job. Sometimes I think you just have to do whatever feels right regardless of whether it is seen as responsible by other or not. #WotW
What a brave decision! Good for you. Work/life balance is such a tricky thing at the best of times but it must be incredibly difficult with those hours of work. I'm sure you will find something with better hours for you both. Good luck with the job hunting x
Thank you it feels a bit scary and overwhelming right now but I am sur it qill work out ok x
I'm not sure it's irresponsible but it must be exciting and liberating, good for you! and good luck with the job hunt #WotW
What did you do? Did you find another job? I'm thinking possible career change now, thank you for the comment x
I recently handed in my notice too without having another job lined up. I completely understand, those hours are not family friendly. Good luck with the job hunting 🙂 x
Thank you, I'm trying not to worry too much but fingers crossed for something soon #WotW
Such a challenge with hours like that. I really hope you find something more suitable soon, that works for you both x Thanks for joining in & sharing with #WotW
Thank you! I am holding out for a transfer but in the mean time I will be looking and applying for something else fingers croessed x
What awful hours you work….I can understand why you feel the need to hand in your notice!!
Good luck with the job hunting x