These past few months I have been slowing introducing new levels of trust and independence to Olivia. She is 8 now and I think it may be time for me to let her start growing up. Finding her own feet and to learn to become more independent from me. Saying that it is a damn sight harder than it looks trust me.
As we live on a main road Olivia doesn’t get to do the whole ‘playing in the street’ thing and we don’t really have anyone on our row for her to play with, but there is a girl from her class who lives just behind us in a side street who she is desperate to play with. Me however not so much! The main reason being I can’t see where she is but saying that she does play out with one of my nieces when she is at my sisters, as they stay where we can see them from the window and we can of course hear them. But I’m just not comfortable yet with her playing out of sight, this of course puts her at a huge disadvantage for gaining some all important ‘streetsmarts’
Lately I have been letting Olivia go to her nan’s on her own. My mum’s road is right next to where we are off the main road. There are 2 small side roads (well technically one in a horseshoes shape) to cross then onto my mum’s. She really is good at checking and double checking nothing is coming. When she first started going herself I would watch her and someone would meet her at my mum’s but she is now much more confident and I watch from the front door until she turns the corner sending a text to let them know she is on her way. I then get a text when she gets there, more for my mum’s sake I think she worries more than I do!
Today I let her go to the shop herself. I can see the shop from my front door it isn’t really far but it is something she has never done on her own. She wanted to get a drink so I checked she knew how much money she had, what she wanted to get and how to work out how to pay and how much to give in. She thought I was being stupid, I just didn’t want her to stress in the shop if she got stuck with something. It all turned out well and I am pleased I can now let her do this herself, I think it will give her so much more confidence knowing she is able and totally capable of doing things on her own without me. She was very proud of herself too. And for me……. well it seems I have to start letting her grow up, well maybe just a little!