So the other morning Olivia said something that got me thinking and no, it wasn’t the usual ‘what’s for breakfast one’ either. Let me set the scene for you.
I had just got out the shower and was doing my hair and make up and as we were having a girls day Olivia asked to do her nails and to put on a bit of make up too. Not glaringly obvious but a hint of pale pink blusher and some pale shimmery silver eye shadow, she is only 9 after all. Whilst I was painting her nails she asked me if we had nail varnish remover so we could take it off before school on Monday.
“I can cope with not wearing make up for school but no nail varnish? How am I supposed to be a girly girl when they won’t let me wear nail varnish!”
Firstly she hardly ever wears make up but she does love having her nails painted. She also loves anything pink, barbie dolls, dresses and shoes and handbags. Yes ladies and gents I am raising myself one heck of girly girl!
Over the years I have read through various channels, listened to and taken parts in debates about the future of development of girls. Parents not letting their little girls wear pink or play with barbie dolls for their unrealistic expectations of the female figure etc, etc and maybe I am misinterepting all this but what is so wrong with it? Does your favourite colour being pink make you weaker? different somehow? Does her preference to play with Barbie dolls mean that she will never be a furure architect, or MD of her own company one day? And as for shaping a girls body image and future self esteem………..I’m not sure we can blame that entirely on dolls!
I do think that we should a wider range of colours available for our children than blue for boys and pink for girls and neither should be excluded from wearing the other for fear of what others might say. Toys shouldn’t be marketed by gender (eg Lego Friends/Fairies for girls? why?) and all kids need to be encouraged to play with any toy they want to whether it be marketed either way.
I’m not impressed at all with that idea. AT ALL. So this is how I am bringing up my daughter……….
- She will know that she is beautiful with or without make up regardless of her age
- She will be encouraged to follow all her dreams, each and every one, every single time she changes her mind and then changes it back again
- She will know that it is who she is that matters not what she wears or how she looks
- She will know that Barbie is just a toy and in no way something to aspire to look like, healthy is in, unrealistic is out
- She will know that the world is her oyster and absolutely nothing is out of limits, she can be a doctor, actor, teacher or taxi driver (today’s ambition!) and she can rock it in killer heels, a designer handbag and a slick of red lippy if she so chooses
- She will know that I will be behind her whatever she chooses 100%
- She will do whatever makes her happy, not other people and that being feminine is nothing to be ashamed of
So I will let play with her unrealistic Barbie dolls , wear pink and paint her nails whenever she wants to!
What are your thoughts on this subject? Do you let your daughters wear pink?