Here we go again……..
Parenting can be hard, really hard and sometimes we need all the help we can get am I right?
Olivia can be, well how can I say this, strong willed to put it nicely. She runs on Olivia time, does what she wants to when she wants to do it regardless of if we need to do anything or be anywhere! I’m sure she is not the only child to have this trait.
School mornings can be a complete nightmare sometimes as she just doesn’t want to get ready ever. This is also the same if I have to to drop her off at her dads before I go to work and on occasion has actually made me miss my bus to work. She is also prone to strops of teenage proportions! Being the dramatic soul she is these things tend to go too far! One time I recorded her on my phone to show her how silly she looked and sounded.
Olivia is 8 this month and over the years I have tried all the different tactics, punishments, rewards. You name it I have tried it. Usually she she manages to reign her behaviour in and everything is fine for a while, but we are back to the time where we need to address the issues yet again.
I have decided this time to use a reward chart again. She is old enough to understand her behaviour and to recognise that sometimes she needs to behave a little differently and be be a bit more responsible and helpful around the house. Especially as it is just the 2 of us.
I chose this one mainly as it was a bargain £2.29 but on closer inspection it is practical, easy to read and use, well laid out and fun to look at.
Olivia isn’t a huge Moshi Monsters fan but this wasn’t my main concern really.
|So far so good
There is space for your name, date and 5 separate cloud bubbles for all the things you would like your child try to achieve this week.
The chart has 5 numbered squares for every day of the week so you know exactly which square to put, or not to put a sticker, as the numbers correspond to the above cloud bubbles.
The things we decided upon for Olivia this week were,
- Get dressed when asked no arguing or messing
- Brush your teeth when asked to
- Tidy up after yourself ie take dinner dishes to sink, taking toys back into her bedroom
- Bed by 8pm every night
- No tantrums
Across the bottom of the page is a section were you can write in a reward if the target of stickers is met. This weeks reward is for Olivia to get back her Frozen sticker book and stickers she lost due to a really bad tantrum if she reaches her target of 30 stickers.
Not too much to ask of an 7 year old I think. So far this week she is not doing too bad. There was a slight slip up yesterday in the park as her cousin rode her scooter and she didn’t want her too.
I am hoping this helps us out a bit as I really don’t like spending the little bit of time I get with her shouting at her and watching her destroy the house after I have just tidied it! I know that it mustn’t be fun to get shouted all the time either.
Today we were actually early for school with no dramas at all and both in good moods so things are looking up already I think.
Do you use reward charts? Or have you a way of resolving problems that works well for your family?